When I feel overwhelmed

Whenever I feel overwhelmed - by clutter, or by things to do - so that my creativity starts to suffer (and worse, my sleep starts to suffer!) I ask myself this question:

What can I do that will give me the greatest sense of accomplishment today?

Sometimes it may be a creative thing - giving myself time to complete a layout or two, make a card, allow myself time to shuffle through my papers. Sometimes it's something very much more mundane: seeing the bottom of the washing basket, phoning up someone I've been putting off.

Still, however, I find sometimes things hang over me and worry me more than once. It's silly to let that go on - recent examples have been getting round to applying for a passport, finding my birth certificate that I'd lost in the overflowing paperwork pile...

But when I finally received my new passport, and when I found the birth certificate (in the box of papers I had already thrown away, then decided to look through one more time!) I DIDN'T feel a sense of accomplishment. Despite the disproportionate stress not doing the task had caused, I didn't feel all that much better when I completed it... it was just high time! And what gives me the greatest sense of accomplishment? Clear kitchen surfaces, a dining room table clear of the usual flotsam and jetsam of family life and ready for a meal to be laid (or a creative session to start), a clean loo.... have I become a housewife in my middle age????? !!!

No - I still HATE housework with a passion. I just like the results. It was great when I could afford a cleaner, because every Thursday evening the family knuckled down and tidied up (which they would never do just for me!) before the cleaners came on Friday, and every Friday I sat in a clean and tidy house, without even cooking to do because we also had Friday as takeaway night. And the whole weekend stretched ahead with the house tidy so we could do useful family things and not chores. Maybe I really need to find the money for that again - in fact - that's a great incentive for making my new business work - if the business brings in money I spend my time doing what I want to do and hire someone else to do the housework!

My grandmother used to say "What every woman needs is a wife..."
She was right. (Think about it)
Or maybe: "Every scrapper should have a cleaner!"

What do you think?

Reaching your goals

I am in a difficult position at the moment - in four weeks' time I will be made redundant for the third time in three years. I work in a sector (HE) in which jobs are often dependent on transient funding. It's dispiriting to be in this position again. I find it very stressful. It seems I just get into a job and start doing some good, and it's over.

I don't have a HUGE goal in life - I just want my family to be happy, and to do some good in society, preferably by using my particular skills to help others learn. I don't want to rock the world...

I guess that if you have something to aim for sometimes it takes a LONG time to reach it. But a big goal perhaps keeps you more on track while you're waiting.

I was reading recently about teacher-turned-astronaut Barbara Morgan, who was 55 when she finally made it into space on the August space shuttle mission. She's been waiting over 21 years for her goal of getting into space... She had trained as a back-up to fellow teacher Christa McAuliffe for the 1986 Challenger shuttle mission. But on January 28, 1986, Challenger exploded 73 seconds after blast-off, killing all seven aboard, including McAuliffe, and delaying for two decades Morgan's own aspirations to carry out a mission with the elite astronaut corps. She had to become a fully fledged astronaut when NASA banned civilians from its flights, and had yet another setback after the Columbia disaster in 2003: she was due to fly on its next mission. How wonderful must it have been, at the age of 55, that she finally achieved her dream!

In February 1990 Nelson Mandela was freed after spending 27 years in prison. He shared the Nobel Peace Prize with FW de Klerk in 1993 for their efforts to transform South African society. In the first multi-racial elections in the country's history he was elected president and his party the ANC won 252 of the 400 seats in the national assembly.

Writer John Creasey faced up to 743 rejection slips before he was first published. Now over sixty million of his crime novels have been published.

There are more interesting tales of early rejection and later success at the Handling Rejection website.

So I shouldn't give up, I guess? If only I knew what my big goal was, I'd have something to hold onto!

Now - what are YOUR goals? What's the big thing you'd like to achieve? Make it into a plaque and put it above your computer to remind you. OK I'm getting a bit Ali Edwards here - but giving meaning to your life can transform it in many ways. I know I'm just floundering at the moment - with a bit of focus I will get so much more done - I just need to find that focus!

Some goals:

For my family to be happy
to be healthy and fit
to be calm
to have a worthwhile job
to help people
to make more friends

Go scrap!

I have a day off today. Sort of. I work 4 days a week and fit some freelance and voluntary work into the other day plus spare time. I was overwhelmed so I thought that I would have an extra day off work this week to concentrate on some of my other projects. But it's nearly 11 am and all I've managed to do is have a bath...

So - I ask myself the question:

"What can you do today
that at the end of the day
will allow you to sit back and say
'today was a really successful day'."

Most of my projects need loads of work doing on them - none of them are at that point where I can make a big breakthrough and feel that rush of success! I need some "two-minute" jobs that I've been procrastinating about...

• Relaxing is definitely on my list! So that's ticked off {sigh}
• Apply to renew my passport
• Put entries in all of my blogs (but NOT spend time on the forums!)
• Some housework is needed, but to get a success in shortest time... the bathroom...
  

and of course what would give me a big fillip of satisfaction would be to complete a LO, or better still, three LOs. That really would have me saying I've succeeded in something today, as I get so little time to scrap and haven't done any this month {gasp}. So: post at least one on this blog by the end of the day!

I can recommend this question if you're ever at a loose end.

Tell me (via comment!) what would make today (whatever day you read this) a success for you? And then - did you accomplish it?

Ali Edwards Ezine

I can't recommend this highly enough

Aezine

It touches how I often feel about my life, work and creativity.

Back at the beginning of the year she encouraged everyone to pick a word to be their theme/beacon for the year. "a word that I can focus on, mediate on, and reflect upon as I go about my daily life."

My word for this year was

tranquillity

And more recently, she has been looking at work-life-creativity balance and shedding layers. That's what I need to do - shed layers. I need to realise that I WON'T ever use those anthropomorphic mole stickers - even if, as is likely, I do a LO on how much my son liked moles at one time. And there are other layers of my life that I need to shed - old hang-ups, hesitations, negative feelings and memories. I can only achieve tranquillity by junking the things that hold me back...

Time I did a bit more recrafting of my life by starting with the scissors and the rubbish bin!